Dating Tips

1. Get on with it. You’re on your own, so have a decent conversation. If you’re not good at it, you will never get a pickup (unless you look like a model). Most guys can’t get past the above part, so you already have a head start. Remember, if you fail at this point, it’s all your fault. She doesn’t really have a boyfriend and she isn’t really that busy. You just didn’t impress her with your conversation, that’s all. Get better and try again.
2. Smile casually and say something casual. Remember, you are a stranger. There is no need to say something elaborate but at least form the words clearly – don’t mumble or spit in anticipation. Here are some ideas:
3. Keep eye contact as you approach. Don’t stare and don’t trip over anything as you walk toward her. Stay relaxed and focused. Have a sense of purpose. Don’t let all the people who are in your way discourage you. Remember, we have already established that she likes you. If you blow it now, it’s all your fault. Although, never underestimate the endearing quality of a guy who trips over in pursuit of love. It can be retold for years afterwards and who knows, it may just end in marriage.
   • “Hey.”
   • “How’s it going?”
   • “Hey there.”
   • “Hey what’s up?”
4. Regardless of what her response is, ask a question next. The purpose of this question is to get her to laugh. Say something benign or even daft:
   • “What are you up to?” This one is a favorite. If she says “nothing,” try one of the others, but if she wants to play along she’ll say “dancing” * cue laugh* or “drinking” * cue laugh*
   • “What’s your name?”
   • “Where’s your boyfriend?” This is a good question to ask if she’s been talking to a guy that she’s obviously not interested in. Do you see the pattern? Humor!
   • Or even “What’s your sign?” She just may crack up
   • If you are talented enough to think up your own humorous question that fits the scenario better, go for it. But please, if you don’t have a rapacious wit, stick to the suggestions above.

Picking Up a Girl

1. Glance over at her again. If she’s chatting with her friends and still has her eye on you, congratulations. If she’s looking at you comfortably, congratulations. If she purposely avoids eye contact, she either has myopia or she just hasn’t felt the spark her end. Approach somebody else or offer to put her glasses back on.
2. Look away for a second or two to give her time to think about you. She has noticed that you’re available and that you like her. She’s thinking about whether she likes you back. Don’t take too long. Between ten seconds and a minute. Whatever feels right. Take a deep breath, relax, think happy thoughts. She was intrigued by you, remember?
3. Make eye contact. You’ve already established that she is available, so keep telling yourself that. This next step is key. If she looks at you and you look away nervously, good luck to you. You’ve already made a bad first impression. Keep a relaxed, flirtatious gaze. Don’t stare and don’t lock up and look like a psycho. Also don’t flash a huge, fake grin. Just move your head however feels natural and smile a bit–whatever feels natural. If she looks away shyly, that’s good. If she gives you a seductive stare, that’s even better. If she looks away and looks freaked out, better find someone else.
4. Clear your mind. Breathe. That oxygen is going to help you think on your toes and help you relax. Gulp it down politely. She may wonder if you are a fish otherwise.

Tips On How To Get Girls

1. Tips On How To Get Girls
   • React quickly if she looks bored or annoyed with her company. The guys she came with are belligerent and touching her and she has no out. This is your best situation to be the knight in shining armor. You don’t even need visual contact! Just walk over there and say, “How’d you like to come sit with me/us?” or “There’s an empty seat next to me if you need it.” You can skip down to the conversation part if you’re lucky enough to find one of these. Ask her what on earth she was discussing with those bullish guys and get her a good stiff drink.
   • Decide what it means if she is dressed provocatively. Women who are interested in meeting someone might wear bold, solid colors like black, white or red. They also typically put a lot of effort into their hair, makeup and shoe selection. Mind you, women often do this for women too, so don’t make assumptions. Women don’t like looking as if they’ve spent a day at the construction site when they go out to enjoy themselves. So shelve the assumptions and look lively. If her clothes give off signals, you have probably been drinking a little earlier than usual. Look for the woman in the clothes, not at the clothes on the woman.
   • Assess whether she is checking you out. Perhaps she’s smiling or talking to her friends while looking at you. Many guys don’t pursue in this situation because they don’t believe what they are seeing or they are waiting for the girl to approach. Yes, she is checking you out and no, she will definitely not approach you. However, she will appreciate it if you send a drink or a plate of nachos her way with a few chuckles and smiles from you. Then go and own up and start talking.
   • Be careful if she is alone. This is a tough call. She may be waiting for someone. Possibly the girl of your dreams will make it obvious if she’s waiting for someone by looking towards the door often. If this is the case, don’t pursue. If not, well, she just isn’t that insecure to be by herself and is most likely to appreciate a good chat, whether or not another guy is coming to meet her. Hey, what’s to lose by at least trying?
   • Understand what is means if she is looking around a lot. If she’s in her circle of friends and makes an effort to look at the guys passing by, you’ve got a potential pick-up. Mind you, you might have a group of women doing this all at once. Select the one that meets with your idea of fun and good talk. Use your commonsense. Sometimes you may be roped into engaging with all of them as they check you out for a friend in that group. Be obliging.

How To Get Girls

Manners

If you want a woman’s phone number, be a man and ask for it. Don’t pull that feeble move of handing the lady your business card and expecting them to reciprocate.

Don’t wait a week to call. Playing it cool irritates women. Two or three days are plenty of time to wait.

Don’t wait until the last minute to ask for a date. Give them a chance to look forward to it. (On the other hand, in the early stages of a new relationship (first month) never ask for a date several months in advance.  Make sure the relationship is something both parties want to pursue before you get locked into plans you may not want to keep.)

Be a gentleman. That means paying for dinner, holding the door open, and using your table manners.

What not to do:

According to body language experts, you shouldn’t fold your arms or chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. Folded arms are a sign of defensiveness or being closed.   Chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions.

Never cover your face or mouth with your hand, or scratch your nose, chin or ear. All symbols of lying!!

People are most comfortable with and attracted to people who are “like” themselves (in dress, mannerisms, thoughts, etc.).  Try to “mirror” your flirting target’s behavior, body position, and mannerisms such as speech speed and volume, etc.

If she leans forward, you lean forward. If you are mirroring someone’s behavior, they’ll begin to feel as though the two of you are connected and “in tune.”

This seems like converse advice, but it’s OK to show some weakness (it’s not a job interview so) you may squat down to talk to her if she’s sitting (you were standing), this gives her the feeling of power, but you know who really has the power!

Be yourself. If you have to be phony it won’t work out for either of you!

Your body language

Dominant Image

Women are biologically attracted to more dominant men!  To attract women, stand tall with your shoulders back, with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes pointing outward to appear more dominant.

If you’re sitting, keep your legs wide apart at the knees, but your heels together.

Feel free to take up some space. According to spatial psychologists, where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract women. Want to be the guy who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room, standing up tall (to be seen) and moving around (also increases visibility).

Hold your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to appear more assertive.

Grooming

It works for her; it’ll work for you. Try combining a grooming gesture such as straightening your tie, with a smile and a gaze.

Open Body Positioning

Men who don’t fold their arms across their chests are perceived as more attractive, and potent.

Extended Eye contact

(Take off the shades inside, let her see your eyes!)

Once you’ve zeroed in on a target, lock eyes with her for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don’t stare (that’s stalking!!), just give her a smoldering come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period.

Your target needs to know it’s her you’re flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.

Grooming

When attracted to someone we tend to preen or groom ourselves subconsciously, by smoothing down our hair or clothes.  If she’s adjusting or stroking her hair, making jewelry adjustments that can be a sign that she’s interested in you.

Also any movement tilting the head back or that exposes her neck is a positive sign!

Cool clothes to get girls?

According to scientific studies, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue.

Blue gives an image of a person who is “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship — someone who’s dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.

Is there a color to avoid?  Stay away from “squished caterpillar yellow-green” which is said to repel both sexes equally.